Self-help Self-improvement

Love and codependency

I believe there is a very fine line between love and codependency. Oh, I am not just talking about love between partners. From what I understand, codependency can happen with anyone- close friends, relatives and even roommates. It’s a bit more than dependency because you tend to start viewing yourself from your understanding of their view and having such an external locus of identity makes it obvious that you have given too much power to another being in your life(regardless of who it is). Being antisocial is not our favourite way of living and if it is, then we would find ourselves in a lonely land. Establishing a middle ground to this was one of the toughest lessons I had to learn as an adult. After my spiritual awakening, no matter who it is in my life, past, present or future, young or old, blood related or not, ceased to have such a power over my life. A basal degree of detachment doesn’t mean I don’t love them or respect them, but often it had been very easy for me to lose myself over others expectations. Toxic relationships can be between anyone, not necessarily partners. As a soul, I realised that this is my journey and only my journey. That is how I intended it to be when I designed it as my higher power, just like everyone else on this planet. There is no point in getting hurt, crushed and overpowered by other important souls in my life. They all are playing a part, just a part. It is rewarding to share this incredible journey with them. But in the end, it is my journey and I will keep having such journeys, eternally. This has been surprisingly comforting and it paved way for my healing journey. ❤️

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  1. //After my spiritual awakening, no matter who it is in my life, past, present or future, young or old, blood related or not, ceased to have such a power over my life. A basal degree of detachment doesn’t mean I don’t love them or respect them, but often it had been very easy for me to lose myself over others expectations. //
    This is Very Very true and how do you deal with the misinterpretation that happens when you are like that?

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    1. It doesn’t show, to be honest 🙂 It just makes me a more secured person which is good for any kind of human relationship.

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