In this day and age, it is just so easy to get lost in wordplay. The rush of the blood in your veins when you get involved in a heated argument is too enticing to ignore. There is something so disturbing yet so comforting when you sulk in silence, cry in isolation, start a social media war or hate a bunch of people whom you’d probably never see in your life after that point. What most of us fail to realise is that we are wasting our time encouraging negativity. Most of us know that it very obvious to say that negativity is bad and positivity is important. Nevertheless, only some of us succeed in fighting negativity on an everyday basis. Evolution has conditioned us to be exposed to so many different people and situations with different energies and frequencies yet somehow end up tuning so efficiently to negativity.
Speaking of energies and frequencies, I would like to imagine each of us being endowed with an imaginary rechargeable battery of positive energy. Every day our battery suffers wear and tear that makes us feel angry, unmotivated, frustrated or even scared. These fluctuations can make our existing positive energy supply unable to meet the demand. When we listen to the news first thing in the morning, it doesn’t matter how much we had planned to accomplish that day, a certain percentage of our energy is already drained lamenting over the bad things happening in the world. When minor unpleasant incident happens, we are so tempted to take it all in and be controlled by it. Suddenly, we become the harshest critic of our life. We start to think about all the awful decisions and actions of the past. We return home with low battery, label that day as a bad day and hope for a better tomorrow.
Sometimes our energy is influenced by the people around us. For instance, have you ever noticed the time you were with someone, and you caught yourself being unusually negative about anything and everything? This person has mastered pessimism, has a sub-zero level of patience, extremely low self-esteem and an inability to cope with failure. They are just so depressing that they drain the last ounce of empathy you have for them. You hardly realise it especially if such people are always in your social circle. If you let them, they can ruin your life permanently.
No matter how easily negativity can penetrate our mind, we can find ways to keep our batteries charged! What I like to do is to imagine that I am wearing a protective suit. This imaginary suit is made of all the empowering things I say to myself on a day I am genuinely motivated and in a positive state of mind. This exercise enforces the idea that I am stronger than the negativity around me. All of a sudden, I feel powerful and any number of whining colleagues, rude strangers or bad-tempered superiors seem manageable. When you get reminded of something/someone negative, remind yourself that you have a defined amount of positive space of mental focus. Don’t waste it on negativity or negative people. Use it instead to maximise your potential to learn and grow. Maintain a healthy relationship with yourself in order to keep your battery charged! Find three good things every day to feel grateful! Don’t be afraid of dissecting your emotions as it has proven to be an excellent strategy to reset your mood. Reason each emotion out. Question them. Another important trait to develop in order to avoid negativity is to stay grounded! An enlarged ego can often make you overthink others reactions to your actions. Even though it is not easy to do, call out on yourself when your behaviour or reaction is exaggerated! Stay away from toxic people and don’t be ashamed of stepping out of situations for the sake of maintaining your positive energy.
Our minds are trained to do whatever we REPEATEDLY think, say or do. Try to make it a HABIT to fight negativity and don’t be shy to show some loyalty to positivity.
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